I was just listening to Mel Robbins’ “The 5 Second Rule,” where I heard her say “I don’t give a shit about your feelings, you’re never going to FEEL like it…”

Interesting… and…

I disagree.

You can 5-4-3-2-1 all you want, but what about the self-sabotage that shows up later? If you don’t BELIEVE that you are deserving of whatever thing you want, then you’re just going to keep subconsciously sabotaging the efforts that you put forth, leading to frustration with yourself, asking yourself “why does this keep happening to me?”

I definitely believe action is important for your situation to change, but it has to be paired with shifting your beliefs. And emotions are just here to show you that something in your reality is going against your subconscious beliefs.

So, in that moment, while I was listening to “The 5 Second Rule,”I thought of a hack for emotions… How you can hack your way to doing the thing you *used to* didn’t want to do…

…How to WANT to do the thing that you used to dread doing… (instead of just doing the thing even though “you’ll never FEEL like it…”)

Think about how you’ll feel AFTERWARDS. Fucking life changing, I know, I know.

We’re not stupid… Our brains are freaking magnificent.

Do you think you can get out of worry, and get out of thinking that you KNOW what will happen long enough, so that you can dream up what you WANT to happen instead?

Can you IMAGINE that you’re already enjoying the outcomes that you desire? When you do this, your brain has the EXPERIENCE of what you desire… your brain has already done the thing, and so you have a neural pathway already established. (aka Visualization. If you think this is “weird”, then you might want to google how the top athletes in the world use this tool to achieve success.)

Now guess what? You can go and do the thing in real life… Since you’ve already imagined how it’s going to feel, you know that when you do the thing that you “don’t want to do,” it makes you feel the way you desire to feel…

So the hack is simple… MAKE-BELIEVE. And let the feelings that you experienced in your make-believe, inspire you to take action based on what you wish to create in your reality, to take action based on what feelings you desire to bring into your life.

Kids make-believe all the time. It’s a normal, natural thing that we are born ready to do, and then we hear the words “be realistic,” or “get your head out of the clouds.”

NO. Don’t fucking get your head out of the clouds. Leave it up there, and imagine all that you want.

And when somebody says the words “be realistic,” recognize that the realistic they are talking about is based on their current reality that they have created for themselves, that they have restricted themselves into.

Do your own thing. Stop putting walls up for yourself. And definitely don’t allow anyone else to box you in. You are created from the same energy that created the universe… so you’re pretty much magic. Others don’t decide for you. You decide.

(Side note: I am still gaining IMMENSE value from “The 5 Second Rule.” I definitely recommend it. Because sometimes, you WILL need to just do the thing [whatever is before you], and you won’t have the time to visualize, or dig deep into what you’re believing about a certain situation that makes you not want to do whatever it is that you need to do. So it’s extremely helpful; it’s just not the ONLY way. The 5 second rule paired with emotional wellness will lead to more long-term success than just the 5 second rule alone.)

It’s so exciting, isn’t it?

The feeling of freedom, when you’re no longer tied down to the actions of others.

The moment you realize, deep in your heart, that your reactions are not controlled by the behavior of others, or any outside circumstances. (Do you see the chorus of angels singing, with a light shining down from the heavens on you? It’s there.)

The freedom that comes with the first time you realize, your old self would have had a crazy emotional reaction to the situation you were just in, but YOU were there.

YOU were there, with your inner child (the part of yourself that wants to freak out like a three year old anytime you perceive you’ve been “wronged” by an outside source).

YOU were there, comforting yourself, reminding yourself that the actions of others are just that… the actions of OTHERS. Not to be confused with the actions of you… and definitely not in control of the actions of you.

YOU were there, helping yourself in the process of letting go; letting go of the crap you wanted so badly to pick up from whatever outside source your inner child thought you should freak out about.

There’s still some resistance going on after the event has taken place. You find that you’ve surprised yourself by remaining calm, when, in the past, you would’ve just lost it. And part of you wants to resort back to those days. Because, let’s be honest here, change is kind of uncomfortable. Even good change.

What will you do in this moment? This moment that’s creating a life-changing shift. You used to believe that your emotions were in control of you, but you now realize that’s just not true… this experience has shown you that your old beliefs, what you thought were completely right, completely true… are not true anymore.

What happens next? It’s definitely more comfortable just to go back to what used to work. But I have a sneaking suspicion that if you try to go back, you won’t be in integrity with yourself because you know there is a better way. And that better way is found when you walk in your truth.

This confrontation of change brings in the awareness that if I try too hard to define who I am with my beliefs, my opinions, my “facts” that I know to be true, and that if I am always “right,” my way is the only way… how on earth will I be confident in who I am as a Divinely beloved human? How on earth will I respond when my paradigm is shattered by a new realization, a new revelation? How can we survive if we’re not willing to evolve with the world around us? How can we move into our purpose if we’re so stuck in the way we think things “should” be? Because when we take a step back, and open our eyes, we will find that things are so incredibly different than what we were taught.

We were trained for this life by people who did the best they could with the tools and knowledge that they had, but who came from their own perspective.

If you ask 50 different people to tell you what happened at the same event, you will have 50 different stories. How is that possible? Which one is the truth? Well, they’re all true, at least for the person who shared their perspective.

Our truths are defined by our past experiences, so how could a thing be true for somebody if they’ve never even experienced what it feels like?

At the end of the day, I believe each human being is doing the very best they can. From this perspective, it’s so much easier to feel compassion and love for each individual we meet, for all of our brothers and sisters on this planet.

When rooting and grounding ourselves in love, and speaking and acting from this place, how many beautiful and amazing gifts will we see show up in our lives?

I have a sneaking suspicion the results will overwhelm our hearts and the amazing lives around us.

I’m laughing at myself. I have a strong desire to sit down and write, but what about? I’m not exactly sure yet.

Still over here laughing.

 

Did you know that we literally speak life and death with the tongue?

I’m in awe over here. It’s just so amazing to see the results show up in my life.

Just earlier I was talking about my trip to Paris in the spring, a trip I’ve wanted to take for probably half of my life, and then I opened up my laptop and saw a sale on flights to Europe. GASP!!! I just laughed. I love seeing the effect my words have on my existence.

I feel like I always return to this, maybe because it literally is my life right now. Seeing how powerful our words are, it reminds me to change my story to create the life I want.

If I’m walking around saying how tired I am all the time, my body is going to stay in alignment with the words I’m speaking, because my brain wants to be right. So I’ll just keep staying tired.

 

NO THANKS.

 

When I speak energy and vitality over my body, I feel an instant shift.

Keep special guard over the words of your mouth.

My prayer for today: Help me to be aware of the language I use, and to create life all around me, everywhere I go, and to speak life into all of the lives around me.

At an Empower Young Living Event I attended this past weekend, a presenter shared a technique she uses when she said something she did not want to come into her reality: “Cancel, Clear.” Like when you’re erasing something you’ve typed on a computer.

So notice your words, consciously speak abundance into your life, relationships, family, career, home, fitness, etc., and if something slips out while you’re in the process of re-writing your story that you tell yourself and others, remember that you have the power to “Cancel, clear” anytime, and then speak more life into your existence.

 

Can you imagine all of the possibilities that you can bring into your life with this simple change?

 

Here are some examples for you:

Old story: “I don’t have enough money for that.”

New story: “I am resourceful, and if that is valuable to me then I will find a way to bring it into my life.”

 

Old story: “I have a really hard time losing weight.”

New story: “I am on a journey to being my healthiest version of myself.”

 

Old story: “I just don’t have the time to do all the things I want to do.”

New story: “I prioritize what is important to me, and I have time for everything that lights my soul up.”

 

Old story: “I have a hard time making money.”

New story: “I make money easily and effortlessly.”

 

Old story: “I’m afraid of what other people will think of me.”

New story: “I walk in my truth and by doing so I give other people permission to do the same.”

 

Old story: “I can’t do the things that I feel are calling to me because I am always with my other responsibilities.”

New story: “My responsibilities better equip me for the new ideas and pursuits that are calling to me. I find time to do what is most important to me.”

 

Whatever your old story is, I dare you to take it and reframe it.

Look for how it is giving to you, how it is helpful to you, and how it is serving you.

Whenever you catch yourself speaking your old story, “NOPE! Cancel, clear!!” And then speak your new story into your life.

And watch for the miracles that start showing up in your life. 🙂

 

Stay mouthy,

Amber Lee 🙂

“Your mind doesn’t know the difference between reality and imagination.”

I’ve heard this statement several times, although I don’t have all the “facts and science” behind it. I’ll check it out later. But right now, what’s more important, is that I stay focused on writing this.

Have you ever woke up from a dream that felt so real? Like it actually happened? I have, several times. (Hence I believe the above statement to be true.)

I woke up from a dream where I had taken full responsibility for my actions in life. And it felt ECSTATICALLY AMAZING.  

I am so grateful for the dreams I have that teach me a lesson, or give me much needed reminders, to help me stay focused on what is calling to me. (Thank you God.)

In this dream, I had decided to DO what I knew I was supposed to do, because I was tuned in to my gut, intuition, listening to God’s guidance, following my heart.

I woke up feeling like this experience had actually taken place; I feel compelled to act, to step into my bravery and courage. To return to the things that I know are written on my heart, to share love and light in the avenues that are before me. To release the fear around being who I truly am, this unique woman that God created me to be.

Our beings are divinely inspired, thought of before we were even created.

Think of how amazing you are. You are created with love and light.

Think about the miraculous world which holds our existence. We are all moving through our galaxy so fast… our beautiful Earth is orbiting the sun at around 67,000 miles per hour!!!! (See https://www.space.com/33527-how-fast-is-earth-moving.html  for more info! It’s amazing.)

We are miracles, literally flying through space, speeding around a giant, beautiful star. I am in awe of the magic we are.

Which brings me to this: It’s time.

It’s time to stop pretending you are insignificant. Because you ARE significant.

It’s time to stop playing small. Because you are anything but.

 

******Do you know who you are?******

 

It’s time to step into the magic that you are.

It’s time to acknowledge the fears that claim to be real, thank them for trying to protect you, and take action anyway.

It’s time to see the abundance of love that permeates our existence.

It’s time to step into the reality that you are enough, that you are fully equipped, that you are on a journey that is on purpose.

It’s time to take radical responsibility for what your life looks like, fully accepting that you chose your life as it is in this moment, and deeply knowing that you have the creative power to change it.

 

******Do you know WHO you are?*******

 

With much love and light,

Amber Lee

There are so many things going through my head about opinions right now.

I trust that my words will flow through my fingers in the way that is most beautiful and helpful for our souls.

 

We feel a strong calling towards a thing, and that thing feels so right and resonates so deeply with our souls, because it is our purpose calling out to us. You know what I mean… when you have this brilliant idea or vision, and you just KNOW it’s what you’re being called to.

There’s a brief moment of excitement, and then, a little “frenemy” named fear may try to sneak in… He’s kept you small and safe in the past, or that’s how it appeared. But he’s also held you back from your biggest dreams and desires because sometimes those dreams and desires call us to go through some scary sh*t. And we perceive that scary sh*t as danger.

It’s at this point that we have a choice and that choice has to be made in an instant. We can choose to let that fear make us small, and keep us stagnant, OR we can say thank you for your input, dismiss it, move past it, and expand into what we’re being called to do.

Opinions of Others

That overwhelming fear that can say many different things (it usually knows what to say in order to get your goat). For me: “What will they think of you?”

The opinions of others are vast; if you only allow yourself to move forward when you think you will have approval from everyone… baby… you’re going nowhere.

Every single person has their own vantage point, their own opinions. Each vantage point is different than anyone else’s. So if you’re running around trying to please everybody, you’ll be spread thinner than flat Stanley going through snail mail. Because there are more than 7.5 billion people on this planet.

Caring about the opinions of others stems from a craving for approval. Why am I seeking outward approval? Now we’re getting somewhere.

If I’m approved of, that means I’m accepted. Ouch.

If I’m seeking approval and acceptance that means I don’t currently have it, because you don’t seek for something that you already have. Double ouch.

 

Reminder: I have already been given that approval and acceptance from God, and I can approve and accept myself exactly as I am. I can love myself exactly where I’m at right now, as I’m exactly the way that my Creator created me to be.

When I’m full of that love and compassion for myself, flaws and all, I can show that same love and compassion to the people in my life. And suddenly, I’m not so much concerned about what it is others think of me; instead, I am focused on the learning opportunities that arise as I notice the feelings that come up for me day to day around staying in that love, and sharing that love and compassion with others.

So when it’s time for us to make that choice, the choice of letting the fear in and crippling us from taking action OR saying “thank you for your input,” letting the fear go, and choosing to stay rooted and grounded in love, let’s choose love, and act on it.

Whatever it is that we choose to act on will create a rippling effect. What we focus on, what we CHOOSE, will expand and show up more in our lives, and will flow over into the lives of the souls around us.

 

We get to choose.

 

Even on the days I don’t get my morning time, I am fully able to bring about a truly magnificent day and radiate love, light, beauty, joy, peace and abundance.

This is really breaking down a new/old story for me, if that makes any sense whatsoever. It’s a new story, because I just started implementing this morning time a few months ago. It’s an old story, because it no longer serves me.

Here is the old story: “I need my time alone in the morning so that I can have a good day.”

There is definitely truth in this, as in having time to myself really gets me in line and aligned with who I want to be and what I want to focus on.

Here’s where the story doesn’t serve me: I had the notion that if I didn’t have this time to myself, I would be cranky, rushed, annoyed… you get the idea. You may know exactly what I’m talking about.

My new story: “I set my day up for success when I spend time alone with myself first thing in the morning, and if for some reason I don’t get that time, there are so many other ways I can set up my day for success, happiness, and whatever I want to create in my day!”

This might be a type A personality trait kinda deal, but I take things super literal. Like it is either one way, or it’s a completely different way.

“Oh WAIT!!! There’s an in between way!!!”

-My mind, realizing that not all things are either black and white

 

It’s so important to keep yourself flexible. (Physically, yes, but that’s not what I’m talking about.) Keep your mind flexible and be able to let go of things or ideas quickly. I could get by without being in a “go with the flow” state before I began motherhood, but now it’s VITAL. Or you’re just going to be frustrated and resentful.

(It would have been amazing if I could have learned how to let go and go with the flow more before I became a mama, but the circumstances of motherhood forced me to learn this quickly, since I’m interested in KEEPING my sanity! I think the easier you can let go of expectations and go with the flow, the more you will have the ability to thrive instead of just survive.)

Since I’m in the middle of learning all of this, and I know I will continue this learning journey… well… FOREVER, it seems good and right to explain a little of what my process is currently looking like.

It’s freaking hard to go with the flow. I’m in the middle of a crap-storm right now. And that’s why I’m writing this. Crap-storms ARE where you can learn some of the best lessons.

So how can I remember to release my expectations of what should happen, let it go, and just go with the flow, ESPECIALLY on the days where I didn’t get time in the morning to center and focus?

I’m glad I asked.

 

Get outside in nature, out beyond the sometimes confining walls of your house. When you get in nature, you can feel the limits being taken off of you because you can physically see the expansiveness of nature, and how free and limitless it is.

 

Speak! Confessions, affirmations, whatever you wanna call them, just say them. Here are a few I have written down and displayed:

I choose to feel happiness, abundance, and joy.

I am powerful, I am creative, I am made of pure love and light and peace.

I am open. I bring in peace, light, love.

I take action. I decide and choose.

(It’s really fun to make these up for yourself; I encourage you to give it a try.)

 

Ask yourself these questions (and then answer them):

What blessings have entered my life?

What do I WANT to focus on?

What do I want more of in my life?

How can I bring more joy and love into my life and the lives of my loved ones?

(What you focus on expands, so asking yourself these questions will bring your focus and energy to things that will help you and lift you up.)

 

(As I’m brainstorming what helps me in these situations, I am realizing that these answers are the answers that come up for me for so many different situations. Interesting, huh?)

 

I’m gonna break it down nice and simple (for myself mostly, because I need it explained in an easy to comprehend manner). You, yes you, are responsible for YOU- all of you. Your attitude. Your frame of mind. Your beliefs. Your outcomes. Yep. I said it.

You are NOT a victim. You ARE a creator, made in the image of Your Creator, and that’s who you are.

You get to take your circumstances, view them from the vantage point of “what can I learn from this situation?” and “This circumstance is bringing about my best good,” EVEN IF IT’S A CRAP-STORM.

Ahhhhh… it feels good to get that off of my chest.

So, not mentioning any names (ahem**AMBER**ahem and whoever else is feeling this is ringing true for them)– next time you are walking around feeling sorry for yourself for whatever reason– Recognize it, Take Responsibility for it, and kick that victim-mindset to the curb.

You are an amazing, brilliant, magnificent human being, and you CHOOSE how you be.

Thank you for allowing me to share with you, and I hope this brings you whatever it is you are needing right now.

Love to y’all.

 

To go someplace you have never gone before, you must do the things that you have never done before.

If you want something new in your life, or you want to make changes, you are going to HAVE to DO new actions! You can sit around and wish things were different, but isn’t that what you have been doing so far? And are you any closer to where you want to be?

I’ve been talking about (let’s be real here- complaining about is a much more accurate description!) getting my financial house “in order” to my spouse for a LONG TIME. This morning, while it was still dark outside, this thought came to me: “GET your finances where you want them to be.” They’re not going to do it on their own… money/finances are a TOOL. They cannot DO anything FOR you. You have to use them and make them do the work you want them to do.

OR you can passively watch and see if they do any magic tricks. (Good luck on that one.)

 

After this kick in the butt (for my mind), I am applying these same principles to other areas of my life where I “wish” I was better at something or I “wish” I had more time for something. I can wish all day that I was better at soccer. Will that make me better at soccer? NOPE! Action is required. Where attention goes, energy flows. Start putting your attention and focus on what you want it to be on… INTENTIONALLY… and begin taking actions around your thoughts… and turn your dreams into your reality.

Your present moment is a direct projection of your past. Where you are in this current moment is a result of yesterday. If you don’t like where you are today and you want tomorrow to be different, decide what it is you want your life to look like and take steps in that direction. They may be tiny steps, and that is totally ok. In fact, that is more sustainable than humongous leaps and bounds.

Small steps. If you’re like me, this may be hard for you to swallow. I want to make all the changes NOW. If this is you, take 5 deep breaths. Focus on your breath. Out loud, say three things that you are grateful for; keep going if you want!

Be present, AND keep your goals in sight. Be so GRATEFUL for everything you have, AND keep doing the work to bring so much joy, love and light into your life and the lives of your loved ones. Be content with your beautiful life, AND stay focused on your growth.