There are so many things going through my head about opinions right now.

I trust that my words will flow through my fingers in the way that is most beautiful and helpful for our souls.

 

We feel a strong calling towards a thing, and that thing feels so right and resonates so deeply with our souls, because it is our purpose calling out to us. You know what I mean… when you have this brilliant idea or vision, and you just KNOW it’s what you’re being called to.

There’s a brief moment of excitement, and then, a little “frenemy” named fear may try to sneak in… He’s kept you small and safe in the past, or that’s how it appeared. But he’s also held you back from your biggest dreams and desires because sometimes those dreams and desires call us to go through some scary sh*t. And we perceive that scary sh*t as danger.

It’s at this point that we have a choice and that choice has to be made in an instant. We can choose to let that fear make us small, and keep us stagnant, OR we can say thank you for your input, dismiss it, move past it, and expand into what we’re being called to do.

Opinions of Others

That overwhelming fear that can say many different things (it usually knows what to say in order to get your goat). For me: “What will they think of you?”

The opinions of others are vast; if you only allow yourself to move forward when you think you will have approval from everyone… baby… you’re going nowhere.

Every single person has their own vantage point, their own opinions. Each vantage point is different than anyone else’s. So if you’re running around trying to please everybody, you’ll be spread thinner than flat Stanley going through snail mail. Because there are more than 7.5 billion people on this planet.

Caring about the opinions of others stems from a craving for approval. Why am I seeking outward approval? Now we’re getting somewhere.

If I’m approved of, that means I’m accepted. Ouch.

If I’m seeking approval and acceptance that means I don’t currently have it, because you don’t seek for something that you already have. Double ouch.

 

Reminder: I have already been given that approval and acceptance from God, and I can approve and accept myself exactly as I am. I can love myself exactly where I’m at right now, as I’m exactly the way that my Creator created me to be.

When I’m full of that love and compassion for myself, flaws and all, I can show that same love and compassion to the people in my life. And suddenly, I’m not so much concerned about what it is others think of me; instead, I am focused on the learning opportunities that arise as I notice the feelings that come up for me day to day around staying in that love, and sharing that love and compassion with others.

So when it’s time for us to make that choice, the choice of letting the fear in and crippling us from taking action OR saying “thank you for your input,” letting the fear go, and choosing to stay rooted and grounded in love, let’s choose love, and act on it.

Whatever it is that we choose to act on will create a rippling effect. What we focus on, what we CHOOSE, will expand and show up more in our lives, and will flow over into the lives of the souls around us.

 

We get to choose.

 

Even on the days I don’t get my morning time, I am fully able to bring about a truly magnificent day and radiate love, light, beauty, joy, peace and abundance.

This is really breaking down a new/old story for me, if that makes any sense whatsoever. It’s a new story, because I just started implementing this morning time a few months ago. It’s an old story, because it no longer serves me.

Here is the old story: “I need my time alone in the morning so that I can have a good day.”

There is definitely truth in this, as in having time to myself really gets me in line and aligned with who I want to be and what I want to focus on.

Here’s where the story doesn’t serve me: I had the notion that if I didn’t have this time to myself, I would be cranky, rushed, annoyed… you get the idea. You may know exactly what I’m talking about.

My new story: “I set my day up for success when I spend time alone with myself first thing in the morning, and if for some reason I don’t get that time, there are so many other ways I can set up my day for success, happiness, and whatever I want to create in my day!”

This might be a type A personality trait kinda deal, but I take things super literal. Like it is either one way, or it’s a completely different way.

“Oh WAIT!!! There’s an in between way!!!”

-My mind, realizing that not all things are either black and white

 

It’s so important to keep yourself flexible. (Physically, yes, but that’s not what I’m talking about.) Keep your mind flexible and be able to let go of things or ideas quickly. I could get by without being in a “go with the flow” state before I began motherhood, but now it’s VITAL. Or you’re just going to be frustrated and resentful.

(It would have been amazing if I could have learned how to let go and go with the flow more before I became a mama, but the circumstances of motherhood forced me to learn this quickly, since I’m interested in KEEPING my sanity! I think the easier you can let go of expectations and go with the flow, the more you will have the ability to thrive instead of just survive.)

Since I’m in the middle of learning all of this, and I know I will continue this learning journey… well… FOREVER, it seems good and right to explain a little of what my process is currently looking like.

It’s freaking hard to go with the flow. I’m in the middle of a crap-storm right now. And that’s why I’m writing this. Crap-storms ARE where you can learn some of the best lessons.

So how can I remember to release my expectations of what should happen, let it go, and just go with the flow, ESPECIALLY on the days where I didn’t get time in the morning to center and focus?

I’m glad I asked.

 

Get outside in nature, out beyond the sometimes confining walls of your house. When you get in nature, you can feel the limits being taken off of you because you can physically see the expansiveness of nature, and how free and limitless it is.

 

Speak! Confessions, affirmations, whatever you wanna call them, just say them. Here are a few I have written down and displayed:

I choose to feel happiness, abundance, and joy.

I am powerful, I am creative, I am made of pure love and light and peace.

I am open. I bring in peace, light, love.

I take action. I decide and choose.

(It’s really fun to make these up for yourself; I encourage you to give it a try.)

 

Ask yourself these questions (and then answer them):

What blessings have entered my life?

What do I WANT to focus on?

What do I want more of in my life?

How can I bring more joy and love into my life and the lives of my loved ones?

(What you focus on expands, so asking yourself these questions will bring your focus and energy to things that will help you and lift you up.)

 

(As I’m brainstorming what helps me in these situations, I am realizing that these answers are the answers that come up for me for so many different situations. Interesting, huh?)

 

I’m gonna break it down nice and simple (for myself mostly, because I need it explained in an easy to comprehend manner). You, yes you, are responsible for YOU- all of you. Your attitude. Your frame of mind. Your beliefs. Your outcomes. Yep. I said it.

You are NOT a victim. You ARE a creator, made in the image of Your Creator, and that’s who you are.

You get to take your circumstances, view them from the vantage point of “what can I learn from this situation?” and “This circumstance is bringing about my best good,” EVEN IF IT’S A CRAP-STORM.

Ahhhhh… it feels good to get that off of my chest.

So, not mentioning any names (ahem**AMBER**ahem and whoever else is feeling this is ringing true for them)– next time you are walking around feeling sorry for yourself for whatever reason– Recognize it, Take Responsibility for it, and kick that victim-mindset to the curb.

You are an amazing, brilliant, magnificent human being, and you CHOOSE how you be.

Thank you for allowing me to share with you, and I hope this brings you whatever it is you are needing right now.

Love to y’all.